Bekah and I do our share of Internet creeping. Mostly we check on friends and look at the weather forecast. Sometimes we see something that reminds me to do something important.
Recently, when we were seeing what has been going on in the lives of the other Mom Bloggers, I noticed a post about end of life planning. I’m not sure if it was that or the Easter season in general, but suddenly I realized that we have been slacking. We hadn’t added Sam to our will.
Don’t get me wrong. I have very specific things that I’d like to have happen in the event of my death. I’m hoping it’s fast and peaceful, and that the soon-to-be made updates to my will are followed, but really I’m practical enough to know that I may not have much say in it. I’m ok with that.
I’m MUCH more concerned with what happens to Bekah and Sam if Chris and I die (or were incapacitated) at the same time.
It’s not fun to think about, and it’s not something I like to dwell on. It is, however, tremendously important.
After we had Bekah we were surprised to find that the person who we thought was an obvious choice would probably not have been given custody of her, and that because we live in Ohio and our families don’t, things were even more complicated.
If you haven’t actually legally planned out what will happen to your children if you happen to die or become medically unable to care for them while they are still juveniles, you may be surprised at what COULD happen.
It’s been five months since Sam was born. If you ask our lawyer, that’s five months of dangerous waiting.
Looks like it’s time to be grownups again and do some of the hardest part of parenting – thinking about what we want to happen if we aren’t able to be there to witness all of the incredible things our kids will do as they grow up.